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HOW  TO  BE  AN  IDEAL  WIFE ; KEEPING  THE  MAN  HAPPY

Every man wants a good wife. In turn, many will often advise a new bride to be a good wife to her new husband. What does this mean, exactly? What are the makings of a good or perfect wife? Most of these qualities are already present in a woman, while the rest can be learned or developed. So if you are a good wife to your husband and treat him right, he will cherish, love, and nurture you in return.

1. Be pleasant. We should treat others the way we want to be treated. That being said, never be rude to your husband, family, and friends. Try to be warm, kind, positive, understanding, and friendly. Actively work to be pleasant toward your husband. Don’t be that person who lashes out at others because you had a bad day. Welcome your husband with a smile when he comes home. A good wife honors her hubby by keeping a pleasant tone in her voice, a happy smile on her face, and a neat and clean appearance. Listen to him talk about his day, especially if it was a difficult one. If you don't like how your partner treats you, take a minute to observe how you treat your partner and try correct your behavior.
2. Treat him with respect. If you expect respect from others. we need to treat others in return with respect too. Haven’t we all heard "Give respect and take respect?" Respect can be reflected in the way one talks and behaves. Always speak in a loving way and refrain from speaking in a harsh manner. A good wife respects her hubby. She never chooses to belittle, strike, humiliate, or otherwise harm him in private or in public. It is better to watch what you say and think before speaking, as it is not possible to take back the words once they are said. A good wife will treat her man with respect in front of others and at home.
3. Communicate. Communication is the key to a good and solid marriage. Do not hide things or keep secrets from your husband. Be honest. Find time to sit and talk with him on a daily basis, even if it is for only half an hour. If you let things bottle up and feel that you cannot share with your husband, then your marriage is in trouble. Be a good listener. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but allow him to talk first. Don't greet him with complaints and problems the moment he comes back from work. Good communication also helps to build trust and strengthen your relationship. The wife and husband are a team or partners. Do not make any major decisions about the family without consulting with husband. Fights or problems may happen, but do not let the world know about it. Rather, you should try to solve it between yourselves as partners. The fight you had last week over shopping or whatever is over and done with. So try to move on with it and stop rehashing the past and reminding him of his faults. Do not resort to name calling, hitting, spitting, breaking dishes, or anything else when you lose your temper. If you do, he may actually start to fall out of love with you and you could lose him all together. Always communicate with words and a calm mind. Breathe before you decide to act on your temper.
4. Be supportive. A husband expects his wife’s support and understanding, especially in troubled. A good wife loves her hubby for his successes and failures, and provides reassurance when he's feeling down. She is a nurturer and an equal partner in the marriage. Support him in all stages of his career and life. Do not belittle your man or hurt his ego. It is often said that "a wife can make or break a man." There’s no quicker way to build resentment in your man than to criticize him or belittle him, especially in front of others. Be proud of him on his accomplishments and genuinely compliment him. You can then expect him to behave in return in the same manner and also respect you more for your support and thoughtfulness. If you don’t agree with him, respectfully let him know you don’t agree with a healthy conversation.
5. Do not nag. No man likes a nagging wife. Ask him nicely. Many wives think that nagging is the only way to get her husband to do things. The truth is that your nagging can create an unwanted rift, or can make things worse between the two of you. Your husband is a grown man with his own thoughts and desires. Just because you think he should be doing something particular doesn't mean he has to do it.
6. Give him his space. As a wife, it's important to understand that your husband has a life that's more than you. He has a family, friends, and colleagues who are also part of his life. He also may have hobbies and passions he is involved in. Don’t expect his undivided attention at all times. Don’t stop him if he wants to go out and hang out with his friends sometimes or engage in a hobby or sport that he likes. An interfering wife can sometimes be very irritating.
7. Keep him happy in bed. Sexual intimacy is one of the most essential things in any marriage. When you please your man, he will be obliged to please you in return. Please your man in bed. If you cannot keep your man happy in bed, he may go where he can get it elsewhere. After all, a man is a man! According to research, one major reason why men cheat is mostly physical, whereas for a woman it is emotional.
8. Plan surprises. Men like surprises too. It can be anything, from organizing his birthday party without him knowing about it or planning a special night of passion by playing a seductress. Your surprises do not have to be elaborate and can be as simple as making him his favorite snack or any of his favorite dishes once in a while, even if you would rather eat something else.
9. Express your love and appreciation often. Men likes praises and appreciation. Make the most of your time together. Men like to hear the words "I love you" too. Also, try to join him in activities that he's interested in, even if you prefer to do something else. Give him a thoughtful gift once in a while. Make it a point never to forget the special days in his life. Pamper him often, especially when he is home. You can cook for him or give him a massage. Making him dependent on you by doing his chores when he is at home is not a bad idea either. Let him miss you and think about you when you are not around. These gestures won’t go unnoticed, and it may even inspire him to do something nice for you. Don't withhold affection.
10. Be honest, loyal, and dedicated. A good wife is honest, loyal, and dedicated to her husband. Marriage is a lifelong commitment, and the vows you have taken at the time of marriage should be kept up at all times.
11. Keep up your health and appearance. A good wife honors her hubby by keeping a pleasant tone in her voice, a happy smile on her face, and a neat and clean appearance. Take special care of your appearance, not just for him but for yourself. Include exercises or yoga in your daily routine to stay healthy. Be hygienic. Some woman feel that once they are married why they should dress up or take care of their appearance — this isn't true, and if you do it you should also do it because it makes yourself feel good too and that makes your husband happy also. A man also likes his wife to smell good. If you are unhealthy or not presentable, your man may start looking elsewhere.
12. Maintain the house. Maintain a clean house all the time. Clear away the clutter and spend time decorating the house. Apart from this, be wise with money and take all the responsibilities of a wife seriously without complaining too much.

Do you want a good husband who will love and cherish you? Then treat him exactly the way you want him to treat you. If you want your husband to treat you like a queen, you should treat him like a king. In this modern world where most wives also work, the above advice may not be fully practical. But at least some effort can be put into exercising these tips in practice. If you are working, you may want to hire a maid to take care of the household chores of cooking, cleaning, and so forth.

I am sure any man would be happy to get a good wife with all the above-listed qualities. Also, I have some advice for the men who were overjoyed seeing this article. Remember: Marriage is a two-way street, there are two people in this relationship, and you have to play your role as well if you expect your wife to be an ideal one.

How to Decide If You Should Get Married

Make sure you have met the right person by spending a lot of time together.Many couples wait 6 months to a year or more before considering getting married.

Get to know his or her family. You can find out many things about him or her by seeing for yourself what kind of relationship their parents have, how they treat your boyfriend or girlfriend, and how he or she treats them. Chances are that if they are abusive to each other, he or she will be abusive to you.

Most teenage marriages don't last. This is because neither of you have had a chance to live your life outside of your parents' rules. Many teenagers are rebellious and elope simply because their parents do not approve. This is not a basis for a life-long relationship.

You need to know in your heart that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. If there is any doubt, don't do it. You will know without a doubt if this is the right person for you. If you are not at that point, give it more time.

Don't get married because you are pregnant or you have a baby, because your parents want you to, or because of financial reasons. None of these are reasons by themselves to get married.

Consider the things you will need in a long-term relationship. Is this person always there for you when you need them? Do they make you feel like you are always the most special person in the room when alone or in a crowd? Do they put you first over everything, such as jobs, friends, and even family? The person you are considering marrying should put you first over everyone and everything and if they don't, then you need to talk to them about it.

MY FATHER'S ADVICE AS I AM SEARCHING FOR A 

WIFE...

My son, I will be very raw and sincere with you.Do not worry about the size of a woman buttockor breast but worry about the size of her heartand brain. Worry about the size of her love andendurance. Because after 5 or 10 years, it will notbe about the breast or buttock.As you can see, your mum now has a flat chestand almost flat buttock but we still live togetherhappily, I still love her and she still love me.Be careful of a woman that loves money. I meanthe woman that talks ‘every time’ about her hair,cloths, shoes, bags panties and make-ups.Marriage is not all about these things. Withoutmake-up, cloths, shoes and panties a goodmarriage will still stand but without love, nomarriage can stand.When I got married to your mum, I didn’t have acar or house of my own. I was not eveneducated. But I had dreams and she appreciateand support me. Any woman that does notsupport your dream is not worth thinking-a-minute about. There are women that will see yourdreams better than you, you are lucky if you findone,

My son, open your ears very well, there is a kind

of woman you should avoid, do not make a

mistake to marry this kind of woman or you will

regret it. I mean a woman that always has bad

things to say about everyone. If you see this kind

of woman, run away.

One of the worst kind of woman you can marry is

the one that complains about everything. If you

buy this, she says you should have bought that, if

you do this, she said you should have done that.

Please stay away!

Most women enjoy talking but the one who talks

for two hours and listen for two minutes is a

potential ‘bomb’. Be wise

Be very careful of a pretending partner. A

pretending woman is not hard to know. She will

always know everything about everything, she will

be careful. Just close your eyes and open your

heart and you will see!

No woman is perfect. If you see a woman who

believes in your dream , who respects you who is

committed and who is not all about herself alone

then don’t let her go.

But remember, you must not be a wayward man.

I have trained you!

If you find a good woman but you are a bad man,

you wont have a good marriage!

I won’t pick a wife for you but I have given you

my advice. When you find her, bring her for my

blessings.